More and more couples are choosing to elope, keeping their wedding celebrations just about the two of them and their love. This means no guests: no friends, family members or even parents. But let's be real, breaking such news to your loved ones can be really tough. So how to announce your decision to elope without hurting anyone's feelings? Read on to find out.
Choose the Right Time and Setting
First and foremost, picking the perfect moment to announce big news is key! Make sure your parents are relaxed and free from any distractions, so they can give you and your partner their undivided attention. Perhaps invite them over for a meal at home or choose a place where you’ve shared many memories — the familiar environment will set a more comfortable tone for a deep and heart-to-heart conversation. It’s important to let your parents know about your decision in person, this way they will see just how happy and sincere you are. If that's not an option for you, schedule a family video call.
Be Honest
For those from an older generation who remember big, traditional weddings filled with lots of guests, eloping might sound like a whole new world! And it's possible that your parents may not fully grasp the charm of eloping just yet. But you can try to bridge this gap by explaining to them why you like the concept so much. What made you fall in love with eloping? Maybe it's the cozy intimacy and privacy that draws you, the idea of having the freedom to do whatever you want on your wedding day or perhaps you feel that this concept truly mirrors your unique love story. Whatever your reasons, stay genuine and upfront. Sharing from the heart will surely help your loved ones step right into your shoes and see the beauty of your choice!
Reassure Them
Let your parents know that eloping isn't about excluding them, but about what feels right for you and your partner. After all, this day is yours! While discussing your elopement with family, emphasize how much their love and support means to you and that you will forever be grateful to have such caring people around you. Most importantly, stay calm and respectful even if the initial reaction isn’t as positive. No need for arguments, instead give your parents time and space to process their feelings and come to terms with your decision.
Be understanding
As we’ve already mentioned, eloping is a fairly new concept that some people might not understand right away. So be prepared for mixed reactions! There will be happy tears or those of sadness, some raised voices or total silence. But be patient. Your parents' feelings are just as valid as yours. Don’t try to prove them wrong, but encourage them to share their honest thoughts with you and carefully listen to their concerns. Show that you value their perspective too!
Keep Them Involved
Even if your dear ones might not be right beside you on your elopement day, there are still lots of ways to weave them into your story! They might help you with planning, choosing that perfect dress (or suit!) or prepare something special, like a DIY bouquet for the bride. And how about inviting them virtually? You can livestream your ceremony to make your close family and friends feel included. On a different date you can host a post-elopement dinner, where all your favorite people come together to toast to the new chapter of your life.
